I Can’t Accept Sex: Understanding Your Feelings
Feeling confused about sex is common, especially at your age. It is good that you are thinking deeply about your feelings. Let’s break this down.
Your Feelings Are Valid
First, know that your feelings matter. It is okay to feel disgusted or uncomfortable with sex. Many people have different views about sex. Some see it as beautiful, while others may not. Each person’s experience is unique.
Understanding the Bible’s View on Sex
You mentioned the Bible. Many believe it teaches that sex within marriage is good. This message can be hard to accept if you feel differently. Remember, faith is personal. It is okay to question and explore your beliefs.
Why You Feel This Way
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Personal Values: Your upbringing or personal values shape how you view sex. If you were taught to see it in a negative light, it can be hard to change your perspective.
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Cultural Influences: Society often shows mixed messages about sex. Movies, TV shows, and even friends can influence how you feel about it.
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Emotional Readiness: At 17, many people are still figuring out their feelings about relationships and intimacy. It is normal to feel uncertain.
Talk About It
Consider speaking with someone you trust. This could be a parent, a teacher, or a counselor. Sharing your thoughts can help you feel better and understand your feelings more.
Explore Your Beliefs
Take time to explore what you believe about sex and relationships. Reading, journaling, or discussing with friends can help you clarify your thoughts.
You Are Not Alone
Many people struggle with accepting sex at different ages. You are not alone in your feelings. The important thing is to keep asking questions and seeking understanding.
Keep Growing
Your relationship with Jesus is personal. Continue to explore what faith means to you. It is okay to have doubts and questions. This is part of growing and learning.
Remember, your feelings are real, and there is nothing wrong with you. Take the time you need to understand yourself.